These days are the longest you’ve ever experienced, but you can’t get a thing done. You nurse until your nipples bleed and lie on your bed in a moment of comatose to the new reality, and the baby cries again. You look at the calendar and have a guilty moment of thinking about going back to work–a physical representation of your old life. You think “maybe I was made without a maternal instinct like all the other moms.” Your body will be fragile from the birth, the exhaustion of a newborn, the insanity of taking care of an entirely new human life. And you will be permanently different.
But look around for signs of normalcy. The way your creamer billows in your cup of coffee to the most beautiful swirl the world has ever made. How the warm water drip drops off your finger tips after you clean the bottles for the third time in the day. The forever hum of the lights as you numbly embrace your freedom to go to the grocery store anytime of the day. And in those moments, you can find a peaceful magic no one teaches you about in birthing classes or doctors appointments. An alchemy of awareness. A clarity of your tired senses, a calmness to your thoughts that are about the most basic of needs, and ok-ness to the new normal.
Be gentle to yourself. The only thing your tiny human needs is you–fully, authentically, essentially you.
Let go of the imaginary stories you tell yourself about how this should be, it will be what it will be.
Let go of your need to control how this will unfold, it will blossom at exactly the right moment.
Let go for your desire to capture this perfect moment on camera, succumb to the perfection of the present.
Let go of your attachment to the story of who you were–or should be, you are new again in every moment of this journey.
Let go of the schedule that tells you that your new human is already doing it wrong, make up your own version of right.
No one will tell on you.
And in this dissolution of the self you once knew, you get back to how you started: perfect. Exactly what the universe needs you to be and exactly who your baby came to for guidance on this planet. Embrace the chaos because in this stimulus you can chose how you will respond. Live your wisdom–it is infinite, it is powerful, and it is forever present waiting for you to trust.
With light and love,
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